Great news for the dating app averse: Despite what the Tinder-loving media might have you believe, new data suggest that the most common way to meet someone is in real life — namely, through friends. The majority of couples are making their initial connections IRL, as friends, in places where they needn't worry about clever usernames or conversation-sparking photos.
All of which should be comforting to those of us who aren't convinced that an app can lead to love. When it comes to meeting the right person, most of us are actually sticking to the basics — and it's working. Trusting your friends' judgment: There's a reason a mutual friend is a trustworthy connector. After all, he or she is hanging out with both of you already.
Chances are people in the same social circle share similar interests and values, which, despite the appealing adage "opposites attract," is proven to be key for establishing common ground early on in a relationship and maintaining it in the long run. Jen, 30, was introduced to her future husband through a mutual friend, she told Mic.
Having friends' stamp of approval is not only helpful for making the initial connection; turns out it's also crucial once the relationship is under way.
A study by Cornell University and the University of Indianapolis in found that people who met their partners through friends, family or their communities felt more supported in the relationship, a factor that can significantly impact how the relationship fares over time.
Taking the pressure off: Meeting in a natural, social way is also less stressful. As anyone who's ever been on a blind date knows, you're much more relaxed when you're not psyching yourself up for what's to come.
Instead, walking into an assumedly non-romantic situation allows potential connections to flourish more organically see: This lack of urgency made her more comfortable.
It all added to the experience of getting to know someone and courting someone. Being friends above all else is crucial to successful relationships, and not only because you bond quickly over shared interests.
Setbacks are all but guaranteed in life, so having a reliable companion at your side is vital.