They all yearn for an emotionally fulfilling relationship.
Sure, all people crave a highly functioning and fulfilling relationship. But in my career as a relationship coach I have consistently seen driven, high-achieving men to be the most love starved.
The more time and energy that driven men put into their careers and self-optimization fitness, education, nutrition, spiritual practice, etc. But this is akin to standing next to a golf ball and taking practice swings before you actually take a shot.
You can prepare all you want, but the real learning comes from the experience of breaking through your emotional barriers within a committed relationship. In their business dealings, driven men are wizards at being stubborn and laser beaming to the core of the matter.
Entrepreneurs have an overactive optimism bias — meaning that they assume that they have a lower risk of experiencing a negative outcome than others.
As such, they need a partner who can support them in their near manic-like work sprint phases of productivity. Not only do they need encouraging words when they are up, they especially need someone to help them with emotional support when they are down.
After great success with his first two businesses, my father a brilliant and talented serial entrepreneur sold them to open a third business that went bankrupt within a year. With three children under five years old, it was a tough time for my parents. My dad struggled with depression and lost confidence in his entrepreneurial abilities. Fortunately he had the courage and strength of a strong woman behind him my mom to help him through those difficult years.
My dad speaks positively about that early business failure. It taught him the value of having strong support in family, friends, partners and mentors, and not hesitating to ask for help.
Sometimes they need someone to lean on for support. So choose a partner that will be your cheerleader through both the good times and the challenging ones. Sure, maybe you had a best-selling bookor smart phone app, or you flipped businesses for impressive amounts of cashbut that was never you.
Those were just things that you did. And for good reason. If you spent years figuring out how to become a success in one area of your life, you can experience those same results in other areas.